I’ve been blogging for a little over 12 months now and I like to think I’ve learnt quite a bit during that time; I’ve learnt what my strengths are and I’m currently thinking about what I want to look at achieving in 2021.
But this is on a positive day.
On a different day, I’ll spend my time looking at my blog and comparing it to so many others out there.
I’ll look at the way they post, the quality of their content, how prepared they are and a host of other things and I’ll look at them with a huge case of something I’ve called “blogger envy”
I really shouldn’t be doing it…..but I do!
Well I guess if I was thinking rationally then I wouldn’t be envious of other bloggers. I would realise that I’m doing it predominantly for myself and my own enjoyment and the rest shouldn’t matter. However, I’m not always thinking very rationally.
I used to think that being envious was a good thing, that it showed I cared about what I was doing and wanted to carry on doing it; as far as I’m concerned if I stop caring then it doesn’t bode well! Now even though a certain element of that is true, I still think that on the whole I need to stop comparing myself to others. Here’s a few reasons why!
It’s not a competition
Despite what quite a few bloggers might say, myself included, stats are very important if you’re relatively serious about blogging. Even though I’ve said on numerous occasions that this is just a hobby for me, I still want to know my blog is doing reasonably “well” in the eyes of others. I might still be writing for me but it’s nice that others read and take an interest in what I’ve shared too.
However, what’s important to know is that there are countless others out there who look at blogging in a different light. Some do it for a career, or they’re learning the ropes in the hope they can eventually turn it into a career. or have amassed followers over a number of years and set themselves up in a different way. These bloggers are often the ones you will find getting loads of engagement, or writing guides to sell and other helpful things like that.
I need to step back and look at my blog for what it is and not try to turn it into something it will never be. I really enjoy it, but I’m not going to worry too much about competing with others!
It’s not all I do
Every blogger has another story to tell, even if they’re a full-time blogger they also have a family, a social life (well not within the last 9 months) and other things going on.
I have to come to terms that, realistically, being a blogger is kind of 4th or 5th on my list.
It comes behind being a husband, father, working 37.5 hours a week in quite a demanding job, home-schooling, and then the time I put into my blog. I also need to find time to eat snacks in between.
I can’t expect myself to be able to prioritise blogging, but I can find a way to use my time better when I am able to. I’ve recently bought a simple blogging planner which I’m hoping will help me fit this lovely little hobby around other aspects of my life.
I’m doing alright really
For me, a massive part of the feelings of envy or jealousy towards other bloggers comes with looking at how others are doing in terms of stats, engagements or even income.
But when all is said and done, the only blog I really need to look at is my own. Sure, I can take inspiration from other bloggers, but it’s always better to focus on what I’m doing and what I’m happiest with.
As 2020 was my first full year of blogging, it was naturally going to be an improvement on the couple of months I’d had it going before then.
All in all, I’m pretty happy with how the first year went. You know, I could look at other bloggers in a similar position to me and get down on myself for not achieving what they have, but it wouldn’t do me any good whatsoever.
So instead, I’m going to fill the glass half full and pat myself on the back.
I haven’t made any blogging goals for 2021. Instead, I’m just going to hope for another improvement based on what I managed last year.
One thing I am going to strive to use however is to get rid of this “blogging envy” once and for all!
Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation to me when it comes to being envious of other bloggers? If so, how do you get past it? What advice would you have for someone who might occasionally feel this way?
Let me know in the comments!