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Is It Healthy to have “Blogger Envy”?

I’ve been blogging for a little over 12 months now and I like to think I’ve learnt quite a bit during that time; I’ve learnt what my strengths are and I’m currently thinking about what I want to look at achieving in 2021.

But this is on a positive day.

On a different day, I’ll spend my time looking at my blog and comparing it to so many others out there.

I’ll look at the way they post, the quality of their content, how prepared they are and a host of other things and I’ll look at them with a huge case of something I’ve called “blogger envy”

I really shouldn’t be doing it…..but I do!

So why?

Well I guess if I was thinking rationally then I wouldn’t be envious of other bloggers. I would realise that I’m doing it predominantly for myself and my own enjoyment and the rest shouldn’t matter. However, I’m not always thinking very rationally.

I used to think that being envious was a good thing, that it showed I cared about what I was doing and wanted to carry on doing it; as far as I’m concerned if I stop caring then it doesn’t bode well! Now even though a certain element of that is true, I still think that on the whole I need to stop comparing myself to others. Here’s a few reasons why!

How do we prevent ourselves looking on with envy at other bloggers? Source: Canva Pro

It’s not a competition

Despite what quite a few bloggers might say, myself included, stats are very important if you’re relatively serious about blogging. Even though I’ve said on numerous occasions that this is just a hobby for me, I still want to know my blog is doing reasonably “well” in the eyes of others. I might still be writing for me but it’s nice that others read and take an interest in what I’ve shared too.

However, what’s important to know is that there are countless others out there who look at blogging in a different light. Some do it for a career, or they’re learning the ropes in the hope they can eventually turn it into a career. or have amassed followers over a number of years and set themselves up in a different way. These bloggers are often the ones you will find getting loads of engagement, or writing guides to sell and other helpful things like that.

I need to step back and look at my blog for what it is and not try to turn it into something it will never be. I really enjoy it, but I’m not going to worry too much about competing with others!

It’s not all I do

Every blogger has another story to tell, even if they’re a full-time blogger they also have a family, a social life (well not within the last 9 months) and other things going on.

I have to come to terms that, realistically, being a blogger is kind of 4th or 5th on my list.

It comes behind being a husband, father, working 37.5 hours a week in quite a demanding job, home-schooling, and then the time I put into my blog. I also need to find time to eat snacks in between.

I can’t expect myself to be able to prioritise blogging, but I can find a way to use my time better when I am able to. I’ve recently bought a simple blogging planner which I’m hoping will help me fit this lovely little hobby around other aspects of my life.

I’m doing alright really

For me, a massive part of the feelings of envy or jealousy towards other bloggers comes with looking at how others are doing in terms of stats, engagements or even income.

But when all is said and done, the only blog I really need to look at is my own. Sure, I can take inspiration from other bloggers, but it’s always better to focus on what I’m doing and what I’m happiest with.

As 2020 was my first full year of blogging, it was naturally going to be an improvement on the couple of months I’d had it going before then.

All in all, I’m pretty happy with how the first year went. You know, I could look at other bloggers in a similar position to me and get down on myself for not achieving what they have, but it wouldn’t do me any good whatsoever.

So instead, I’m going to fill the glass half full and pat myself on the back.

I haven’t made any blogging goals for 2021. Instead, I’m just going to hope for another improvement based on what I managed last year.

One thing I am going to strive to use however is to get rid of this “blogging envy” once and for all!

Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation to me when it comes to being envious of other bloggers? If so, how do you get past it? What advice would you have for someone who might occasionally feel this way?

Let me know in the comments!

66 thoughts on “Is It Healthy to have “Blogger Envy”?

  1. I try to turn my envy into admiration. I totally admire your blog, the look and feel is so smooth and your images are always beautiful and well thought through – you have a brand going for sure (much more than me). You speak from the heart too and that might not garner the views or income of long posts about eyeshadow on a niche make up blog, but to me its much more valuable.
    Also, snack time between life, work, family and blogging is VERY important. X

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    1. Thank you Smell, what a lovely first comment to read! See, I look at the outlay of my blog and think it looks amateurish and not very polished, but that’s only because I’m comparing myself to others…in actual fact I am an amateur blogger and if I spent more time and money I COULD maybe improve the way it looks…..but I don’t actually have much of either right now! Thank you very much for your input 🙂 and I agree, very important!

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  2. I do to some degree but I try to remind myself that not only all blogs are different and naturally there are going to be certain niches which tend to get more engagement, but I remember that blogging certainly isn’t the only thing I do. Therefore it only makes sense that a full time blogger will probably have more followers, stats etc compared to a part time one.

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    1. Exactly, and I think I need to be careful who I’m comparing myself to (not that I should be in the first place!). Certain bloggers have more time and put more time into it and that’s absolutely fine, but yeah for the majority of us it isn’t the only string to our bow. Thank you for reading 🙂

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  3. I think most bloggers have bloggers envy. I’m starting to think that if you don’t have bloggers envy as a blogger then you’re not doing it right 🙂 It’s probably just part of the human condition.

    All the best, Michelle (michellesclutterbox.com)

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  4. It isn’t right to be envious of others’ blogs, but I think we can all admit to having fallen to this trap at some point. What I would say though is that we learn so much from our peers so comparing blogs doesn’t have to be negative! If you look at blogs that inspire you to see just how they structure things, the blog design and how their writing is presented then use that to improve your own blog, I see no issues with it. The problem comes when you start thinking “why can’t I be doing as good as they are”.

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    1. Yeah exactly Shelly and, whilst we learn a lot from other bloggers, we also have to appreciate that they have their own styles and niches and we have ours. The not feeling as good as the other one comes from what we actually perceive to be good, and this is where we start to have to try and suppress these feelings. Thank you for reading 🙂

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  5. I think we’d all be lying if we said we didn’t feel this almost daily. I know I do.

    The way I deal with it, is by reminding myself that I work full time, have 3 children and I still blog because I love it. Yes making more money would be amazing… But I love my job as well. I have told myself recently that I am worthy of being in the blogging community and I belong there, I am not a newbie and I remind myself that the hardwork is paying off, But only after almost 3 years.

    The other thing I have to remind myself is that there will always be someone looking at our ‘smaller’ blogs, wishing their blog was as successful. Thats what I love about the community, we are all in this together, new and old. We all have the same goal x

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    1. Totally agreed Claire; as I said putting it all into perspective, blogging features a little way down the list of priorities, but it takes time to find its place in our lives and therefore we need to adjust what it is we want to get out of it. There will always be room for learning and improving but I’ve always been a big admirer of yours and just think you need to keep doing what you’re doing! Thank you for reading 🙂

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  6. Great post! I think that it’s okay to look to others for inspiration- which I do a lot! But if it comes to the stage where you’re comparing yourself, then that’s not always healthy. Blogging is such a personal thing and the enjoyment you get from it is 100% the main thing to focus on, everyone is on their own journey 🙂 thank you for sharing

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    1. Yeah definitely not healthy – I don’t WANT to be doing it but on a bad day it just seems to happen! Really enjoying doing it at the moment and don’t want that to dwindle. Thank you for reading 😊

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  7. I feel this way quite often and what you wrote resonates with me very much. I read, The 5 AM Club by Robin Sharma, last year and it was hugely impactful on my habits and how I now spend the first 4 hours of my morning. Helped me to realize that I have the time – I just have to pick my priorities and make them a focal point of what it is I’m working towards.

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  8. Like you, my blog is a hobby that I fit in between a full-time job, being a wife, mother, and keeping my house somewhat clean and tidy. I look at it as a learning experience. I’m learning new skills that I can use in other places, which is never a bad thing.

    I’m not sure I’d call it envy, but I do sometimes look at other blogs and wonder why their stats are so much higher than mine when their content really isn’t any better. My 2020 stats exceeded anything I could have expected but my blog is small compared to others.

    I don’t set goals around number of views, or followers. I prefer to focus on things that are within my control like how many posts I write or how I can make my blog look better.

    Keep on blogging Tom. You’re doing great!

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    1. Thanks for the comment and feedback Michelle, we both have similar experiences with our lives away from blogging but at the same time blogging gives us so many positives too! Trying to channel those feelings more positively and not worry about others but on bad days it does get hard sometimes. Thank you for reading.

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  9. I can definitely relate to you. I’m a new blogger but I often find myself looking at other blogs and seeing all the engagement. But I quickly realized that its best to focus on myself and my own blog because
    Blogger envy can lead to a person becoming discouraged

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  10. Great insights! I can absolutely relate to this. I often find myself comparing my blog to others. In awe of how some bloggers are able to put out new content every week, while I struggle to get one or two posts out a month. Of course, like you pointed out, it’s not all I do. I have a family and I am also working on other aspects of my business while maintaining a blog. Thanks for reminding me of this!

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    1. It’s really important to remember everything else too, sometimes it’s all too easy to get lost in a world of stats, views and comments etc. Glad you’re able to know what your own strengths are and hopefully you can set goals that suit you without worrying about what others are doing! Thanks for reading 😊

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  11. Food envy, dating envy, school envy, family envy, blog envy – check check checkerdicheck. I am quite addicted to these types of envy-creating comparisons and I totally get that you do too. I think everyone does, on some level. And though possibly unhealthy – it does also keep you sharp and ambitious so it ain’t all bad
    I hope 🤐🤭

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  12. It was so refreshing to read this and I’m sure I speak for so many when I say you’re not alone in blogger envy at all! I experience it from time to time and I think as human beings were always so quick to compare ourselves to others and put ourselves down, and if you’re generally having an off today it’s so easy to think you’re not doing as well as you could be. But like you say, we’re all on our own journeys and have our own stories! Thank you for sharing 😊

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    1. I think as we get older we realise there’s always going to be someone more organised, quicker, stronger, whatever it may be….you’re right that it’s only those days where you have a bad one that you tend to look at others and make those comparisons, but on others days I’m actually quite pleased! Thank you for reading 😊

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  13. I have went through this so many times and especially when I was brand new to all of this. It was easy to get hung up on stats, followers, and seeing other people post about how much they made blogging. Overall I realized we all have our own journey and way of getting to our final destination. Some of us quit, others go on to do great things. I think the important thing to do is to be true to yourself. Once I started to do that I really thrived in the blogging atmosphere. You are doing fabulous and you should know it! 🙂 Keep up the great work.

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    1. Thank you Shyla – sometimes the envy doesn’t always make sense but I guess that’s why I called it an irrational reaction! So easy to focus on numbers instead of the content but I’m starting to realise that as long as I’m happy with the content and doing the best I can, the rest isn’t as important! Thank you for reading 😊

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  14. I feel the same! I think the way I approach it is relatively healthy, because I use it as a learning tool to see what has helped get other bloggers success! I don’t feel much envy but I do sometimes daydream about being as successful as some other bloggers 😂

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  15. Honestly, I think blogging envy is something that SO many of us struggle with at one time or another. My blog hasn’t even been around for a year yet and I’m already feeling that. That being said, I do my best to put that aside and focus, instead, on the things that I have accomplished. No one is perfect, I still fall into the comparison trap from time to time and there’s a good chance everyone commenting on this will as well, All we can do is stand up, brush ourselves off and refocus our minds in a more positive way when it happens 🙂 Thanks for the reminder!

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    1. Very good point – we all have it in some way shape or form at some point! But we all react to it in different ways. We’re both relatively new so can’t feasibly expect to be at the same place as others who have been going for years. From some of the comments I’ve had it seems like more people have moments of envy than I would have imagined! Thank you for reading 😊

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      1. I think that’s the most important part to recognize – while it’s more common than many realize, and we can’t fully control that, we can control how we respond to it. Thanks for kicking off a great conversation here. It’s probably one that a lot of bloggers need to hear!

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  16. A good well written post! It’s so easy to compare yourself to others but that’s not based on the whole truth. Comparing our blogs would be like comparing our bodies on insta and that wouldn’t be right because we are all different. I had envy last year just after I started, I started to take it all too seriously when it was meant to be a hobby and something I enjoyed doing. I’ve pulled it back again to something I enjoy doing and not to try and be something it isnt.

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  17. I’ve definitely had blogger envy off and on since I started blogging 9 months ago. It’s usually when I see people who started around the same time as me and appear to be having much more success. More followers, better engagement and even gifted and sponsored posts. There’s been times when I’ve questioned what I’m doing wrong!
    But then I put it into context. I’m a wife, mother and I have a full time job. So I don’t have a load of time to dedicate to blogging. I fit it in with everything else going on in my life. So I can’t really compare myself to others, because I don’t know their situation. Maybe they have more time to invest in blogging, maybe their content is amazing or maybe they’re just better at engaging and promoting their blog.
    Thank you for such an honest post and for raising a topic that effects many of us. Your blog is amazing and you should be so proud of it. There’ll be people who look at yours and get blogger envy too!!

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    1. Thank you for the lovely comment Jaclyn (as I’ve come to expect from you!) and the feedback. I must admit I’m envious of yours too! But that’s good, because you work so hard at it and at engaging with people and you deserve all the plaudits you get. Despite being wife, mother, colleague etc. you still find time with the little amount that’s left! We’re not doing anything wrong, just have a slightly different perspective on things. Thank you for reading 🙂

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  18. When I feel envious of other bloggers, I step back and look at what I’ve achieved so far. I remind myself that I love blogging and that’s all that matters.

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  19. There is definitely blogger envy around, but I think it’s how you handle it what counts. I’ve had blogger envy in the past, but I turn that envy into support and admiration for the blogger! x

    Lucy | http://www.lucymary.co.uk

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  20. I think it’s healthy look at the “competition” so to speak. You get an idea if your going in the right direction etc. But at the same time I think you need to be unique. And not hold yourself to ransom because another blogger may be doing slightly better.
    I write my articles with no comparison to others. It’s unique to me and my blog, if it covers certain topics of the same then that’s what it does, but your words could be more compelling than others so I don’t think you should be envious.

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    1. Yeah that’s right, there’s a fine line between wanting to use people for inspiration and instead stepping too far away from what made you enjoy or start blogging in the first place. Appreciate what’s different about yours and I’m going to start to appreciate what’s different about mine! Thanks for reading!

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  21. I think we’re all guilty of blog envy although I agree – we shouldn’t be! I’m sometimes envious of other blogger’s aesthetics, but I turn that into motivation for making tweaks to my own blog here and there. Full disclosure- I have on occasion been envious of this blog! High engagement and views are something I struggle to achieve, but at the end of the day it’s the writing part that I enjoy, and that’s the main reason I blog 🙂

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    1. Gee, thanks! I would never have considered this little thing something to be envious of but I guess I’m happy that the blog is working on some level! I like the revamps to yours and the focus on new layouts etc. so it’s clear you’ve used these feelings in a positive way. Thanks for reading!

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  22. I can’t say I’ve never felt this way when I see the statistics of others, but everyone’s journey is different and it’s important to remind ourselves that everyone taking time out of his/her day to read our content is pretty amazing! It would be such a shame if people lost joy in blogging just because of this envy.

    Thank you for raising this point, glad to know I’m not alone in this!

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    1. Definitely not alone, based on some of the comments! You’re right though, too much focus on these things could send people off track and that’s the worst outcome. Thanks for reading!

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  23. I definitely have experienced blogger envy! Although I try and change it round to something positive, it can be really hard when you look at other people like rah, you’re doing so well and so good and I’m not, when in reality I am. Everyone has different goals, styles and lives, you just have to do you and I feel it’s important to remember that!

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    1. Agreed Jessie, envy is going to happen sometimes and it usually happens on a bad or not very productive day. But you are, we all are, because we’re doing what we enjoy! Thanks for reading!

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  24. I’ve been blogging for 10 years and I still get blogger envy. I think it’s only natural that it happens and sometimes it can be healthy and push you to succeed but sometimes you’ve got to remember that everyone’s journey is different. Staying in your own lane and focusing on your own achievements is a big one otherwise you’d just get consumed by blogger envy.

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    1. I think it depends on our own moods and own mindset, but I think you’re right about it being an incentive more so than a hindrance; important to focus on yourself first and worry about others later. Thanks for reading!

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  25. Interesting post – I think there has been a real undercurrent of jealousy in the blogging world but 2020 has brought the community closer together! I think that being aware of the success around you and letting it inspire you is healthy. Copying or being bitter is not it though!

    Rosie

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  26. I think it’s totally healthy to be envious of others in the same field as you as long as you turn into something positive. I compare my blog to others but I do it to help improve myself. No one is better than anyone else, we just do things differently and that something different might work for someone else too. Awesome post xx

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    1. Exactly that Suzy and I think the majority of it is simply mindset – we all function differently but the main thing we all want for ourselves is just to enjoy it! Thanks for reading!

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  27. Comparing ourselves to others is normal, and for the most part, a healthy thing to do, until it crosses over into something that makes us feel unhappy or negative about what we’re doing, etc. I sometimes seek inspiration from other bloggers but ultimately understand that I have to be authentic otherwise I am creating something that will forever be disconnected from who I am or what I want to achieve. Evolving is an upgrade, and that is a positive thing to look for, but if it’s envy that drives something, it will actually hold you back because you’re not looking at where *you* can go but rather where others have been.

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  28. When I first started out I used to look at “popular blogs” and think well why is mine not the same? But now I just am happy writing (as a hobby) and enjoying the content I am creating without worrying about others. Plus I enjoy celebrating others success and it makes me happy seeing everyone do well regardless of how big or small the achievements are.

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  29. Haha. I feel ya. Use it as motivation to tweak it. You sound like you may not be entirely happy with it if you feel that way so just make the little changes until you dont feel that way

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  30. I find there is no point in being jealous of other blogger’s success. why place all that energy on trying to be someone else when you could put that same energy in gaining a skill or focusing on your own success. everyone’s journey is unique. numbers don’t measure success. success can be seen in different ways.

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  31. For me, writing is primarily a stress release, a way to get all the anxiety and energy out of my head. However, there are times when I felt I’ve said something super-important, something to make the world a better place, and based on the reaction, I feel like I’m screaming into the void. Nobody cares what I have to say, while others are so popular, they are able to make money from their blogs and books.

    I really have to remember that I’m doing it for myself first, so it’s okay if I’m not getting hundreds of views and dozens of comments. I just need to keep writing and find my voice.

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  32. Just reading your blog and I can relate. I haven’t really blogged much despite setting it up 3 years ago but decided recently that this is a hobby that allows me to make sense of some of the things rambling about my head in a rational way. As someone with ASD it feels like it never switches off sometimes, so I blog to make room for the stuff I need to think about as opposed to the stuff that gets stuck there. I’ve only started to follow people and hit the discover button and your title pulled me in. Thank you for being real 🙂

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  33. This is a great post! I often caught myself envying other people on social media. I try and not do this too much because it brings me to a really sad place but it’s reality and it happens! I usually focus on my own stats and motivation! Where I am now wasn’t where I was last year and that’s something to celebrate! Thanks for sharing x

    http://www.lynnmumbingmejia.com

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  34. Thank you for being so honest and transparent! I’ve only had my blog for two months and I often compare myself to other, established blogs. This is a hobby for me and not something I plan to do full time, so I need to keep that in mind!

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  35. Blogging envy is very real unfortunately! I think we all suffer from it at one time or another it’s just how we choose to react that shows who we are xo

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  36. I get blogger envy ALL THE TIME! I think I just need to remember, that this is my hobby and I’m here on my own journey and having a whale of a time doing it!

    Katie | katieemmabeauty.com

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